lately, i've been thinking a lot about love. what it is, why it happens, and what makes two people love each other. and i really haven't been able to come up with much. but what i have been able to come up with has helped ease my mind for the past few months. somewhat.
so..i believe two people fall in love for a reason. there has to be some kind of connection. and not a physical one, an emotional one. and i think people build this connection by spending time together, learning about each other, and most importantly, learning to trust each other. but i don't think you can just spend time with someone, learn about them, and trust them and expect to be in love. something else has to happen. i don't know how to explain it, or exactly what it is for that matter. but something happens. something you can't control.
then i believe the only way two people fall out of love is by choice. once two people love each other, and i mean real love, not lust, they don't just stop. they have to make a conscious decision to stop loving the other person. and i know that this sounds flawed. because..it is. and this is where i contradict myself..but i think two people are just meant for each other. but, if two people are meant for each other, then they decide to "fall out of love", what happens? i thinkk they go marry somebody else. and that's how divorces happen. but..i don't really know. i'll think about that more later.
anyway, somewhat related to falling out of love, i think two people stay in love by choice. there is noo way two people can stay in a relationship with out some kind of work. and stay happy that is. actually, just recently i decided that. about a week ago, i thought that when two people were meant for each other, things just work. but they don't. i don't really know how to explain any of that either..but it's true. two people can't just be together, and expect everything to work. arguments have to happen. and sometimes, you even have to break up. even if it's just for a little bit..breaks help people realize how much they actually need each other.
and finally, if you're wondering how any of this fits into my life..it just does. don't ask. thanks.
wow..
that was deep..
i hope you understood it though.
i had to throw it together fast 'cause i was going to forget about it if i didn't.
leave me a comment.
i'd love it.
that's a very mature and thoughtful look at love paulio. i completely agree with you on the issue of falling out of love. someone told me that being in love is waking up every day and making the same decision to be with someone and work hard at it despite any problems you are having. you're very wise for only being 15. (AND NO, YOU STILL CAN'T USE THAT KNIFE.)
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